Relationships are tricky business: One mistake and you could say goodbye to your loved one.
After the relationship ends…
And, when you have decided to axe the relationship, believe me, it isn’t going to be a cakewalk. No matter what the reasons, the heartburn would always be there . And most of us, end up either refusing to let go, holding on to the past, or taking revenge. And of course, how ever could we forget the after the break up sex!
Trying To Be Friends With The Ex
A big, looming question after the breakup seems to be: “Can we still be friends?”
Unfortunately the answer is probably no. Each of us needs to deal with the breakup in our own way and definitely separate and apart and away from the scrutiny of the person they just broke up with. Most people cannot remain friends after a breakup but if it ever is to be, it will be later…much later. I know a couple who had dinner every now and again after they broke up.
They told everyone around that they were “friends” and liked to check in now and again. One night, about barely a month after the breakup, the dinner turned into a teary shouting match.
So we recommend, if you are cutting the ties, do not turn around and build bridges with your ex for at least six months.
Sex after break up…
While breakup sex with the ex seems like fun and a way to reconnect with someone who knows you, it also comes with confusion and more complications. Try to avoid it. Even if you have a terrific time, you will end up feeling confused and maybe even used. And that’s again a big No
A mantra that I strongly recommend is If it’s dead, bury it. DON’T sleep with it!
And if you are in a mood for some bit of revenge, then we think it’s merely a waste of time. For starters, it’s illegal. They’re a lot of other reasons, but in the end, ten years from now, you are going to look back and think how foolish you have been! So bid adieu to the very thought of breaking into your ex’s houses and destroying the CD of the song you danced to on your first date. Or ripping apart the sofa that you had a romp in. Or bringing the curtains that you fought over on a home shopping spree…
Leave the storytelling to the maestros. Don’t tell every person you come into contact with the whole bloody story and then list all his faults and mistakes. No body is interested. And spreading rumors won’t bring the satisfaction hoped for. People may begin to avoid you for fear of having to listen to hours of ex-bashing.
And the final bit is do not hit on/date/have sex with/marry your ex’s best friend, family member, or boss to make her jealous or to get even. Because by doing that, you are only courting trouble with a capital T.
And of course, the icing on the cake is the saying, “Save your strength for getting over it.
Because you will get over it.”